—mediation
—clear connection moves us
Mind the Motion offers mediation for the workplace or for parents
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A conflict calls for mediation when underlying values and interests are out of sight and fruitless discussions keep recurring. When ideas about each other's behaviour stiffen or the relationship falters.
Mediation is an active process.
The goal of mediation is to actively seek a solution for the issue, with the support of an unattached person (= the mediator). A solution tailored to the needs of all concerned, to a level that is workable, liveable, and acceptable for all who is involved in this process. That measure is determined by the participating stakeholders of the issue. Sometimes several mediation sessions are necessary, sometimes not. Sometimes 1 session, on its own, or as an interlude during a different (coaching)process can be sufficient.
Mediation essentially seeks to:
guide the communication process within a clear framework emphasizing respect, serenity, and constructive outcomes. Voluntariness, confidentiality, and discretion are the basic conditions. This also means that any person involved can step out of the process at any moment.
clearly distinguish the different perspectives.
clearly question and clarify the underlying interests, needs and values.
foster the climate to create lasting solutions based on shared values and interests.
let the mediator take a multi-partisan stance (= neutral yet engaged/empathic). This means that the mediator shows empathy for each person involved. It does not mean that the mediator thereby indicates that he/she agrees with the different points of view.
ensure that the solution safeguards the interests of all.
Mediation is NOT relation therapy.
However, mediation certainly works on the relational level as far as necessary to find sustainable solutions for everyone involved. That might feel relieving or therapeutic.
As soon as, out of 2 (or more) people in relationship, 1 of them is annoyed or feels hindered by the other(s), conflict arises.
Definition of 'Conflict' - Evert van de Vliert, 1997 (psychologist)
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—at work
I’m a certified mediator for conflict in the workspace.
After a first, free of charge, intake call we can decide what the sequence of actions might be for your specific question.
All with the purpose to be useful in order to find a solution. During that first intake we discuss the issue, taking the perspective of the big picture.
As a contact person we stay away from your personal perspective at that moment. The aim is to discern what is needed for the team as a whole, the organisation.
Having disagreements at work that do not seem to find a solution?
—as a parent
Although everything might have been sorted out in the past, difficulties can still arise. Which ever relationship you had previously with the other parent/guardian of the children, most parts of that relationship might be over.
The parental relationship though, never ends. I believe children thrive from having well relating parents.
Coming from that perspective, sitting down as parents and clear the air between both (or more) of you most likely will save time, pain and costs in the future.